Saturday, June 20, 2015

Father's Day Recipe: Smoked Jamaican Jerk Oxtails

Smoked Jamaican Jerk Oxtails:

Marinade Ingredients:
5 scallions – chopped
1 Tbsp Fresh Thyme – chopped
2 tsp Kosher Salt
1 tsp Freshly Ground Black Pepper
1 Tbsp Brown Sugar
2 tsp Ground Allspice
1 tsp Nutmeg
1 tsp Cinnamon
2 Scotch Bonnet Peppers – chopped
1/3 c Soy Sauce
2 Tbsp Canola Oil
1/4 c Apple Cider Vinegar
1 medium sweet onion – chopped
1/2 c Orange Juice
3 cloves Garlic – minced
1 Tbsp Fresh Ginger – chopped

Place all ingredients into a food processor and pulsate until larger items are pulverized.  Puree for 2-3 minutes until very smooth.
Makes 3 cups of marinade.  Store in the refrigerator for up to a month.


15- 20 nice sized oxtails – fat trimmed
Granulated Garlic
Seasoning Salt
Onion Powder
Dried Thyme

Season oxtails lightly with spices and place into a large bowl or freezer bag.  Toss generously with the marinade and place into the fridge for 6 hours to marinate.


Thursday, May 21, 2015

Fear and Playing Like An Underdog

I love this time of year because you get to hear the best life wisdom from some of the best people making the best contributions to humanity during graduation commencement addresses.

Recently, some great wisdom came from an unlikely source: Matthew McConaughey!

In McConaughey's commencement address to the University of Houston, he shared some great wisdom...most notably was his comment regarding FEAR!

Summary: "You know these No Fear t-shirts? I don't get 'em. Hell, I try to scare myself at least once a day. I get butterflies every morning before I go to work. I think fear is a good thing.


Because it increases our NEED to overcome that fear.

Say your obstacle is fear and rejection. You want to ask her out but you fear she may say " no". You want to ask for that promotion but you're scared your boss will think you're overstepping your bounds.

Well instead of denying these fears, declare them, say them out loud, admit them, give them the credit they deserve. Don't get all macho and act like they're no big deal, and don't get paralyzed by denying they exist and therefore abandoning your need to overcome them.

I mean, I'd subscribe to the belief that we're all destined to have to do the thing we fear the most anyway."


Face your fears. It's normal and as McConaughey's connected to your destiny to overcome them!

One last quote from McConaughey's commencement address was: "Be brave, take the hill but first, answer the question, "What is my hill?"

Read more of this on Time at

Sunday, May 17, 2015

What is Your Name's Hidden Chemistry?

A friend posted this quick quiz on Facebook that gives you your name's predominant chemistry symbol based on typing in your first name.

It was so accurate for me that I wanted to share:

Find your name's hidden chemistry HERE

Share below if you feel inclined...I'd love to know!

To Live with Purpose or Not: That is The Question

As I'm sitting here at Starbucks working, I struck up an unusual conversation with a lady. As I point her in the direction of the plug for her laptop, I casually asked where she worked. I really asked because I was curious what type of work would cause her to work on a Sunday.

She was intentionally vague with her "at a nonprofit" response while stuttering to get it out. I thought that was odd so a few seconds later I ask her "Which nonprofit?"

With a nervous laugh, she says "Planned either love us or hate us!?!?"

I replied back to her the same way I would to anyone given my line of work (I'm a coach and strategist that helps people to maximize their potential): "I respect anyone who believes in their sense of mission and purpose whether I agree with it or not. The tragedy I see the most is people who have no purpose or sense of mission at all! At least you feel some sense of mission or you wouldn't be working on a Sunday!"

The visible sigh of relief and relaxation in her shoulders told me that she is judged quite a bit based on the organization she works for...I was glad my comment gave her some sense of relief to at least not be judged for one day!

What does this have to do with purpose?
In our current world humanity is so fractured based on differences of opinion or perspective. I am not writing to discuss that...I'm writing to reiterate the importance of how having a sense of purpose or mission can lead to a more authentic and empowered life.

What we see most times in coaching can fit into one of the categories below:

  • People who are working towards a mission that others expect from them (parents, teachers, etc) but that has no real meaning;
  • People who believe they're working on a mission but what their doing is really fueling their ego or pride;
  • People who flirt with a mission or delve into their potential purpose but as soon as it gets hard, they abandon it because we've all been programmed to take "the road of least resistance" 
And what's even more important about 95% of our population that operates with the above (but is also well known amongst coaches) is no amount of vacations, money or vices (temporary experiences) is going to fill the voids of a purposeless life.

What are you doing today to create more purpose in your life? And like the lady I met above, even if you haven't figured out your singular purpose, join a group, tribe or organization that helps you feel more connected to a sense of mission.

And don't stop looking until you find it!

P.S. See the "Free Resources" page for tools to help you connect with your purpose!