Saturday, January 23, 2016

Luminaries on Transformation (WSJ)

One of my favorite media features is WSJ., the lifestyle magazine published by the Wall Street Journal.

This month, their Soapbox feature asked six luminaries what Transformation means to them.

Transformation: a metamorphosis during the life cycle; a process by which one expression or function is converted

Here's a snapshot of my favorite responses:

Blythe Danner
Transformation Through Chapters of Life
"I've enjoyed entering into the last chapter of life.  It's been liberating.  The transformation into old age takes you by surprise.  You never really come to terms with it, not on this earth anyway.  But you look back on all of the things you've accomplished and feel good.

But there have been some waves along the way--widowhood, for one.  I never though that would happen, that I would survive my husband, who was so strong and youthful.

Still, I've never found old age to be as frightening as I think it might be for some people...I'm not terrified of the end--it all feels like such a natural ongoing journey."

Michael Chow
Transformation Through Suffering
"In the first act of a movie, you have the 'inciting incident', an event that brings about change in a character's life. For me that was London. I was born into a life of luxury in Shanghai. (However) I was always very sick. So I went to school in London. I was uprooted, I didn't speak the language, I had lost my culture, I knew no one, and I never saw my father again.

When I was 29, I started Mr. Chow to bridge gap between East and West (due to my experiences in London).

Suffering fuels transformation--it was that suffering early on (in London) that transformed me from a delicate little thing into someone determined to do good."

Pat McGrath 
Transformation Through Makeup & Confidence
"It would be naive not to acknowledge the pressures women are faced with to look a certain way. But for me, a bit of makeup had always been a way to gain an instant confidence boost. People can benefit from the unique personal transformation that makeup can provide, because when you paint your face up to exude confidence, it often works inward."

Massimiliano Gioni
Transformation Through Diverse Art Lenses
"As Italians, we tended to see a lot of art just by going to church.  But I didn't even consider that art.  Instead, it was a sort of visual soundtrack to religion or background noise.

So my first encounters with contemporary art happened through books. Later I encountered Warhol's films Chelsea Girls and Trash.

These were certainly transformative experiences, but more than that, I think my early attraction to this kind of art was part of a transformative journey. I was interested in art because it was a vehicle was a vehicle of both social and intellectual mobility.

Thursday, January 21, 2016

Chic Shelves with One Kings Lane

No matter what type of home you live in, chic shelves is the ultimate sign of a well-designed life. 

Chic book shelves work for apartments, studios, home libraries, large homes with massive shelving units, and more.

And I have found that chic shelves always end up being a great ice breaker for dinner parties as your guests inquire about your displayed treasures, coffee table books and (hopefully) unique book ends.

I loved this feature by One Kings Lane of the art of creating your own chic shelf with fabulous bookends.

A pop of blue adds dimension, design and texture

Bookends are fabulous accessories that lets you turn a grouping of book titles into a serious decorative touch on any surface while dressing up you bookshelves. As we move indoors for the colder months and prep for warm nights curled up with a treasured tale, take this time to showcase your favorite books with a little extra pizzazz.

Below I've highlighted my favorite One Kings Lane bookends, plus a few tips on how to make the most of these small design accents that can add a punch of style.

How to Nail the Look

Pop of Personality
Bookend designs have come a long way. Originally a simple sheet-metal stand that used the weight of the books themselves to stay upright, the bookend has been transformed into a chic new range of styles. Whether you choose a whimsical statue, a polished geode, or a sculptural statement, be bold and pick an eye-catching piece. Small accents like these are the perfect places to showcase your personality.

Desk Organizer Extraordinaire
If you’re like us, you have a hard time saying no to a beautiful notebook. So use bookends to dress up your desk with your collection of paper goods. We’re absolutely smitten with the idea of using a playful bookend shape to bring a bit of whimsy to a desk arrangement.

Book ends on a desk

Form Over Function
Sure, they’re meant to act as a stylish endnote to a stack of books, but bookends are good-looking enough to just sit pretty atop a stack of your favorite coffee table books as well.

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

The Big Rent The Runway Sales Event!

I wouldn't be a great blogger if I didn't tell you about the insider sale that the style set looks forward to every time...the Rent the Runway sales event where the site marks their rentals for clearance prices!

I'm talking designer brands that are of the highest quality marked up to 85% off retail prices!

I'm hurriedly creating this post before I head into work because I thought it was important enough to get this to you before they sell out!

Here are my favorites but click on link for their clearance page with items starting at only $11!!! (all picture credits to Rent the Runway):

RVN Luthor Skirt $52 ($295 Retail)

Customer Picture Wearing Skirt

Kendra Scott Earrings $17 ($75 Retail)

Shoshanna Sheath LBD $63 ($360 Retail)

Customer Wearing Dress

Slate&Willow Rubix Necklace $35 ($115 Value)

Rubix Necklace As Worn

Allison Parris Stardust Dress $50 ($395 Retail)

Stardust Dress Worn by Customer

Rebecca Minkoff Neon Crossbody $56 ($196 Retail)

Customer Carrying Crossbody

Tracy Reese Lace Dress $62 ($349 Retail)
Customer Wearing Lace Dress

Customer Wearing Lace Dress

Elizabeth&James Ethnic Bucket Bag $110 ($445 Retail)

Customer Carrying Bag
Balenciaga Sunglasses $111 ($450 Retail)

Customer Wearing Sunglasses
Magaret Elizabeth Emerald Dream Chaser $41 ($118)

Zac Zac Posen Leather Handbag $268 ($495 Retail)

Customer Carrying Handbag
The Baseball Cap with a Cult Following: Yestadt Black Leather $57 ($325 Retail)

The New Savvy Neutral

Historically, when fashion has referred to neutrals it is normally black, white, grey or tan.

For me, I am always looking at ways to keep my style fresh and sexy without ever becoming boring.

One of the ways I've managed to do that is to create my own rules of what I think is neutral.

I purchased these Banana Republic reptile print pumps that I wear as my neutral with navy blue classic dresses, jeans with a white t-shirt, with a little black dress (LBD)...the list is endless!

I get compliments on these heels from men and women and the best part...I can comfortably walk in them all day!

Good news for you?  They are on sale at Banana Republic along with other items on their site at 50% or more off select items!

Get your (neutral) sexy oooon!

Saturday, January 16, 2016

Exclusive Preview: Gorgeous India Hicks Spring, 2016 Debut

Today was a funday work day filled with coaching and client assessments but also...all the Style Ambassadors of India Hicks had the pleasure of getting the opportunity of seeing the debut of the India Hicks Spring, 2016 collection from the leadership retreat in Miami, Florida.

Here's a sneak peak of the collection that will be fully available on Monday, January 18th.  And true to what we'd expect from the collection, the new pieces are filled with whimsy balanced with a sophistication that will be widely appealing to those women who want something unique, stylish and well made at a direct sales price point.

You can certainly expect our collection to give retailers and fashion houses a run for their money because unlike big box stores, crowded malls or magazine advertisements, there are over 600 fabulous Style Ambassadors who are more than willing to give you the personalized style inspiration, customer appreciation and Girl Boss service you'd expect from a Live Extraordinary Tribe!

You can shop the collection at our Curva-Lish Style Ambassador site HERE! And you can also read more information on how YOU can become an India Hicks Style Ambassador and join our awesome tribe of women who are choosing to Live Extraordinary!  Make your 2016 epic!

Black Leather with Suede Flap Handbag

Suede Hobo

Indi Pendants

Heritage Prints Totes

Color Blocked Wing Leather Handbag

Inspiration for Your Travels

Friday, January 15, 2016

Seasons of Aging (Jennifer Lopez)

I loved this quote in InStyle magazine by Jennifer Lopez:

"In your 20's you think you know everything. In your 30s you find out you know nothing. In your 40s you realize you're not perfect and that's OK."

Well said Jennifer Lopez and so true!

Thursday, January 14, 2016

Tips to Create Your #DreamsList

One of the things I've done for years that I also advise my clients to do is to create a "Dreams List".

What is a Dreams List? A Dreams List is your list of the clients, people or opportunities  you'd most like to work with or for...and these are not easily reachable. These are clients that are your absolute dream to have the opportunity to work with and serve!

I'm only showing part of my list in this pic but so far in 2016, I've already checked off one!

My Dreams List includes having the opportunity to facilitate and conduct self assessments for Steve Harvey & his organization, Ivanka Trump & her team, Fairmont Hotels and their leadership team, etc.

Of the 20 on my list, it will likely take me 1-2 years to work it in addition to doing my daily work. I won't necessarily land each one....that's not the point. The point of the Dreams List is to design and create the big opportunities you want in your life. It doesn't matter if you are a volunteer, stay at home mom, mompreneur, business mogul, startup entrepreneur, CEO, nonprofit executive, etc.

Creating my Dreams List has literally changed my life because it keeps me from getting too comfortable with what I can easily strive to achieve and it creates excitement with always striving for goals for my businesses that are outside of my comfort zone and reach!

Here are some tips to help you create your own Dreams List and watch your world shift that one degree that makes the difference between living big and living comfortable...

Tip #1 Make sure that the people on your Dreams List have a characteristic(s), project(s) or service(s) that you highly value so that you can focus in your pursuit of landing them as a client.

For example, my Dreams List includes a few companies whose work and products I greatly admire.  So they are on my list because based on what I do as a facilitator and strategist, I want to help these companies continue to be great and evolve.

There are no people or companies on my list who I deem not providing a valuable service or product that serves humanity in some way. Thus, my Dreams List is filled with social enterprises and people/startups that have been generous in their charity support, etc.

And when it's a person, again, focus on a characteristic they consistently exhibit.  For me, Steve Harvey is someone that I have followed and known about for years in the Black comedy circuit.  Seeing his rise from hole-in-the-wall comedian to building an empire while maintaining his integrity with grit and gusto is freaking amazing to me and all the people like me who have known about him for years.  He's on my Dreams List because I want to work with him and his team to continue to be the BEST at what they do and how effective they are at executing their mission and vision.

Tip #2 As inspiration, use the proverb of "seed, time, harvest" as your strategy.  The first encounter you create with your Dreams List person or company is not an Ask.  Your first encounter needs to be one of a "seed", meaning, where you offer something that is of service to them and/or supports their goals and objectives.

For example, I have a major nonprofit on my Dreams List that is changing lives on an everyday basis.  I have observed this non profit from afar and two years ago, started contributing $25 per month to their fundraising efforts.  I read all their newsletters, I am on their email list of their major fundraising event in New York, etc.

It's been two years and I still haven't made my Ask...but I WILL!  I am currently in the "seed" and "time" part of my strategy with this group: donating, reading, researching, being intimately knowledgeable of their mission, their board, etc.  The harvest will come!

And just know, there will be some Dreams List clients you can land in 3 months of cultivation and there will be others that may take you five years.  Keep at it!

Tip #3 Prepare as you go.  One of the greatest attributes of people who are happy and content with the life they are living is very's called patience.  Keep in mind, Dreams List clients are not your everyday clients.  They are the ones you are building up to and towards.  And as the wise adage says,

"Success is when preparation meets opportunity."

Don't prepare for your big pitch or presentation to your Dreams List client when you make the Ask.  Prepare for them as you go!  Keep a file on them so that every time there is news, a clipping or other information about them or their organization, you have a place to file it to keep the information organized.

And what you are doing is being patient in the meantime for the right opportunity.  When you are well prepared in being so knowledgeable about the person or their organization, you are clear as to how your product or service will solve a major issue they have OR adds value to their current product or service and you do that in a way that shows you have been patiently waiting for the right opportunity...this increases your chances of getting a "YES" from the opportunity you are Asking about 10 fold!

Tip #4 Don't get discouraged if you initially hear a "No"...I once heard one of the most highest grossing individual fundraisers in Texas say that when she gets a "No", she knows that it means that she only needs to provide more information (meaning, she doesn't take it personally and give up). 

Maximize that "No" and ask followup questions that will position you to get a "Yes" the next time you inquire about the opportunity.  Even if that is three months, six months down the line where you make another "Ask", ask enough questions (when you hear a "No" during your Ask) to get more information that will get you inside their mind as to what their highest priority needs are and go back to your Dreams List file and assess how you can pivot your pitch for the next "Ask".

Tip #5 If you will notice, creating a Dreams List is not for the faint of heart.  You have to be bold, believe in yourself, be patient, be well read, be focused, etc.  This is not for the timid of heart who is more concerned with being average than with living BIG.

If you are doing a Dreams List for the first time, I'd suggest creating your list to include dream clients or people who are a 1-2 degree of separation from you that can help you build up your boldness.

Also, don't worry about creating a Dreams List with 100 people or organizations. Starting with five is just as important as the 20 I mentioned.  I've been doing this for a while and am hyper focused so I can manage 20 while doing my everyday work.

For example, when I am on social media, I am not diligently following every celebrity or person in my community.  I focus 90% of my social media attention and engagement on my family, closest friends, partnerships, current clients and my Dreams List people and organizations. Period.

And lastly on this tip, don't think your Dreams List has to be celebrities or known people.  I have admired Steve Harvey as one of my heroes way before he was as famous as he is now.

And one of my Dreams List people is the Publisher of an Australian magazine that I hope my work with them will help them take a key project global and make more effective.  This Publisher is not globally known but is a female entrepreneur who exhibits lots of grit and gusto and her magazine is going to change many lives when it goes global.  I highly admire her and she's "Liked" several of my Instagram reposts of her magazine's best articles...I've been giving my "seeding" some "time" and I'm almost done with the creation of my "Ask" so that I can "harvest"!

Let these tips inform the creation of your own Dreams List and as always, I'm believing for you to live authentically in your purpose with grace and in style!

It's Curva-Lish.


Monday, January 11, 2016

#MCM: Hottie & The India Hicks Love Token

My Man Crush Monday (#MCM) is this hottie wearing our India Hicks "2016" Silver Indi (Love) Token on our Black Cord.

Do you have plans to make 2016 an epic year? Then get (or gift) this Token as a way to make sure you maximize everyday in becoming all that 2016 has in store for you!

Front of Token

Sale at JC Penney! Shop now!



Sunday, January 10, 2016

Vulnerabilities of an (Older) Single Woman

I've had this post in the back of my mind for a while but was too afraid to write it for fear that this vulnerability will forever be on the internet.

So what made me finally decide to write it?

For the thousandth time, I had the experience that single women hate: someone asks how you are doing and as you proceed to tell them you notice they are really not listening...after you finish your update, they ask the real question they wanted to ask, "So have you found someone yet or are you still single?"

Ahhh, there it is. The question you really wanted to know so that you can be comfortable with putting my life experiences in a certain perspective.

I've had this experience so much that I'd be a millionaire if I had $20 for every time it happened.

And for me specifically, this exchange seems to happen especially when I'm answering their "How are you?" question with some huge wins I've had in my life.

This happened at an event after I told someone I had just returned from being a guest at the White House.

This happened after I told someone I had finally found my calling in life.

This happened after I told someone I had got a promotion in the tough oil&gas industry that skipped me two income levels.

This happened after I was appointed to my first board.

This happened after I made a major life decision to own my own power.

I'm assuming you are getting my point.

More recently, what caused me to decide to finally write this post was an exchange where a fellow business man asked me how I was doing and I responded, "After more than three years, I finally have office space at a gorgeous building downtown. I was also excited about a new church I was attending." He nodded and then said, "Don't forget about getting a man. You're not getting any younger!"


Y'all, seriously, this has happened more times than I can tell you!

What programming have we accepted that a woman can't be whole, successful or happy unless there is a man involved???

So, this post is my attempt to set the record straight on a few personal experiences of what it's like to be a 41 year old single woman:

1. No apologies: I am not about to list all the reasons why I think I am/am not single. I am no longer at an age in my life where I feel inclined to explain every aspect that doesn't line up to some life checklist...I am single. Period.

2. I am not a lesbian and yes, I do desire to be married to the right man someday. When people are trying to get their head around how someone like me can be single, they sometimes ask (or insinuate) that I must be gay. No, I am not gay.

3. I no longer believe that refraining from only serious male relationships is the Christian way. Let me explain. I grew up in a Christian environment my whole life. Thus, I was taught that you should only date men who are likely the one (instead of having FUN), sex is only for your husband (I believe in lovers), etc. This is a major shift for me.

4. I am not a leper. People have no idea how easy it would be to be with someone just for a warm body to cure any loneliness. I get hit on by married men, old boyfriends who are bored from their suburban family life, men who married for wrong reasons, pastors, CEOs, etc. Just because I'm single doesn't mean I'm not desired! I have a conscious that prevents me from settling for anything other than what's the BEST for me. Period.

5. Married women this is your Public Service Announcement: I DO NOT want your husband! Sometimes I feel like I'm in one of those "Sex in the City" episodes where I show up for an event that's primarily couples. And guess what, all the married women are eyeing me to make sure I'm not getting too close to their's completely ridiculous!

6.  I am happy. I honestly can't even begin to tell you how many times the person judging me for being single has been unhappy in their marriage, career, etc. Everyone, do a check of your own life, including YOUR marriage! I don't need your pity. If anything, I need your grace! Grace to invite me to dinner with your family...single people have the BEST life stories. Otherwise, I'm good.

7. I wake up with fear everyday. Knowing that I am responsible for every aspect of my financial life, decisions regarding my household, etc can be scary. That doesn't mean I don't have a support system or advisors. I do. But still, at the end of the day, being single you are aware that important decisions must be dealt with by you. So be kind to single people making the best decisions they can!

8. I don't have more hours in the day than you do! We all have 24 hours. Just because I don't have a spouse or children doesn't mean I sit at home with nothing to do. OR, if I say "No" to an invitation, don't automatically think, "What else do you have to do?" I choose my time and hope I desire to fill it just the same as you! Respect that the same as I respect your time.

9. I don't assume that because you're married you are more fulfilled than me sexually or intimately. As a Christian, I used to believe that male attention or lovers was wrong unless you're married. Not any more. I know some of my Christian friends will disagree. Ok. Let me share a couple stories that happened in this vein: 1. A fellow Christian friend says that 90% of the women who attend her "sex toy" parties are her married church friends. They are unfulfilled! 2. Some of the most judgmental, mean-spirited women I have EVER met were frigid Christian women who were 30 plus years old who aren't having sex or getting male attention. (I am not picking on my fellow Christians, this is just what has actually happened in my life) You can disagree with me if you want but I'm speaking REAL talk.

10. Last but not least...I'd prefer to meet a man through one of my family members or friends! I have had only one family member reach out to me in the last five years about connecting me with a great guy. If you're reading this, make it a goal in 2016 to connect a single person in your life with another single person. I promise you, they will appreciate it!

And to encourage the single people out there, go read my post about "Owning It"! Make this the last day of you trying to afix your life into a box.

Make up your mind to live your life the best way you know how...even if that means you are single.


Friday, January 1, 2016

Finding Your Life's Work (Jeff Goins)

I wanted to let y'all know that one of the most influential books on work in the last decade is on sale for only 99 cents on Amazon (last day)!

"The Art of Work" should be required reading in my opinion.

Why? Besides the fact that it has impacted millions of lives and how they view the impact and contribution of their work, it is a tool that will keep you focused in 2016 on maximizing and finding your life's work.

Read the summary:
Jeff Goins, a brilliant new voice counting Seth Godin and Jon Acuff among his fans, explains how to abandon the status quo and live a life that matters with true passion and purpose.

The path to your life’s work is difficult and risky, even scary, which is why few finish the journey. This is a book about discovering your life’s work, that treasure of immeasurable worth we all long for. It’s about the task you were born to do.     

As Jeff Goins explains, the search begins with passion but does not end there. Only when our interests connect with the needs of the world do we begin living for a larger purpose. Those who experience this intersection experience something exceptional and enviable. Though it is rare, such a life is attainable by anyone brave enough to try. 

Through personal experience, compelling case studies, and current research on the mysteries of motivation and talent, Jeff shows readers how to find their vocation and what to expect along the way.


"This is one of the most honest, direct, and generous books about you and your life that you will read this year. It took guts to write and it will take guts to read. Leap."
-Seth Godin, best-selling author of What to Do When It's Your Turn 

"The Art of Work will make you think differently about what you do and how you do it. Jeff Goins is a fresh young voice in a field full of copycats. He challenges us to approach our work the way we would a canvas--both delicately and with furious discipline. People will be reading this book, and profiting from it, for a long time." 

-Steven Pressfield, best-selling author of The War of Art 

How to get the book + the bonuses

So here’s how you can take advantage of this limited-time offer (whether you’re purchasing the book for yourself or a friend):

  1. Buy a copy of the digital book here at Amazon
  2. Enter your email address and receipt number here (we will deliver the bonuses to you via email).
  3. Check your email to download your bonuses (you will be asked to create a username and password to access a protected site where you get videos, audio files, link to the community, and other fun things).

#CurvaLishFav: Build Your Smoothie Tool

I am a huge fan of Whole Foods and one of my goals is to drink more healthy smoothies.

So I was ecstatic when I found this new, free interactive build your smoothie site by Whole Foods that will support all of us who have 2016 (and beyond) health goals!

The brilliant things about the tool is you can add your own ingredients to favorite recipes, print out desired ingredients for your grocery shopping list, calculates nutritional info and you can share on email/social media (Twitter, Pinterest).


Are you a green smoothie fan or a fruit-packed smoothie bowl lover? This interactive smoothie generator allows you to create your own smoothie recipe using a variety of fresh ingredients and pantry staples. From almond butter and kale to chia seeds and turmeric, we’ve included our favorite smoothie additions, so feel free to mix and match. With each new two-cup smoothie you build, you’ll get a customized set of nutrition facts, too.


Sunrise Breakfast Smoothie
  • 1 small carrot, shredded
  • 1 small banana, peeled
  • 3/4 cup raspberries
  • 1/2 cup low-fat plain yogurt
  • 1/2 cup unsweetened vanilla almondmilk
  • 1/2 medium orange, peeled and seeded
  • 1/4 cup rolled oats
Combine all ingredients in a blender and blend until very smooth, 2 to 3 minutes. Pour into two tall glasses and enjoy.
Nutritional Info: 
Per Serving: Serving size: about 1 cup170 calories (15 from fat), 2g total fat, 0g saturated fat,0mg cholesterol, 85mg sodium, 37g carbohydrates, (4g dietary fiber, 14g sugar), 6g protein.

Sweet Potato-Coconut Smoothie
  • 1 (8- to 10-ounce) sweet potato
  • 1 1/2 cup unsweetened coconut milk beverage
  • 1/2 cup nonfat plain Greek yogurt
  • 2 tablespoons flaxseed meal or hemp seeds
  • 2 tablespoons honey or pure maple syrup
  • 1/2 teaspoon grated nutmeg
  • 1 1/2 cup ice cubes
  • 2 tablespoons toasted coconut (optional)
Preheat the oven to 400°F. Place sweet potato on a small baking sheet and roast until very tender, 50 to 60 minutes. Halve sweet potato and let cool, then peel. (You’ll have about 1 cup flesh.) Sweet potato will keep in an airtight container in the refrigerator for up to 1 week.  

Combine sweet potato, coconut milk, yogurt, flaxseed, honey and nutmeg in a blender and blend until smooth. Add ice and blend again until smooth. Pour into 2 or 3 tall glasses and garnish with toasted coconut, if using.
Nutritional Info: 
Per Serving: Serving size: 220 calories (50 from fat), 6g total fat, 2.5g saturated fat, 0mgcholesterol, 75mg sodium, 38g carbohydrates, (6g dietary fiber, 20g sugar), 7g protein.