Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Inspiration for Your Life Transitions

You do not have to be ready.

You do not have to conquer your fears.

You do not have to wait for the stars to align.

You do not have to have a Plan B.

You do not have to build an indestructible safety net in order to take your next step.

Stop overthinking, overanalyzing, undersupporting yourself into deflation.

Your excuses will not protect you.

Envision. Prime. Anoint. Embark.

Trust that you are already prepared for the next round.

And in those moments when you don't know what to do or where to go, trust that you will figure it out.

You always have, haven't you?

I'm L'Erin. (Pronounced lair-in)

After dropping out of college (twice), I spent 15 years studying the Divine with traditional and indigenous spiritual teachers in 23 countries -- from Nepal to Cuba to Australia to South Africa -- developing my spiritual gifts and helping you live yours.
I create healing circles, workshops, retreats, courses and private sessions that help soulful women entrepreneurs connect with the Divine and transform the world. The essence of my work is distilled to freedom -- supporting you in finding it, cultivating it, living it. Because your power is in this moment. In this breath. In this one courageous, against-all-odds, painfully true...Yes. You are worthy of your deepest desires and I'm in full devotion to help you live them.

Thursday, August 18, 2016

Making a Style Statement on Casual Friday

CurvaLishStyle: did you know that one of my roles when I worked in corporate was auditing payroll. One thing I noticed immediately: the women who wore flip flops and too-casual casual wear on #CasualFridays were paid on average 15% less than their male counterparts.
Perceptions matter y'all!

Make your style statement even on Casual Friday work days with this gorgeous #denim #dress...and don't ever miss an #opportunity to make Friday count by making a #professional, casual Friday #stylestatement! FYI, clutch also on site!

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Changes, New Chapters: Are You Scared?

I'm scared.

I get it. 

One chapter of your life is coming to a close; and a new one is beginning. 

We may try to fool ourselves into believing that change is just a scary thing; so being scared of what's next is the right emotion to express.

I call BS. 

You're scared because you lack the confidence in your knowledge, skills, and abilities to be better than you were yesterday.

You're scared because of what other folks may think.

You're scared because you may fail.

You're scared because you don't believe in yourself.

Stop being scared. 

If you don't #Believe in you, why should I?

Mairo Akposé-Simpson

Monday, August 15, 2016

The "One More Win" Daily Principle

The other day I was talking with a friend and I had mentioned to her that I have this principle I live by that has helped me in so many life situations that it has become 2nd nature.

This principle that has become completely intuitive I've called the "One More Win" daily principle.

What does "One More Win" mean?

You see, we all have bad days or days where we just feel completely un-fulfilled.  We may feel like robots going through life without any real impact or contributions.

And I completely understand that not everyone can just quit their job, leave a relationship, abort a mission, do a 360 or any other quick actions.

Sometimes things are more complicated than that and I am here to tell you: I Get It!

For me, it was repeated life tragedies that threatened to make me just want to give up and not dream big!

There was a five year succession in my early thirties that I encountered loss, after loss, after loss, after loss.  I seriously felt like I was living the life of Job in the bible!

So to help me maintain a sense of hope and joy in looking forward to better times in my life, I created a mentality and deal with myself that if I could just get "one more win" for the day, I'd be okay because all those wins (big or small) would add up.

Sure, I know you've heard many gurus talk about checking off your to-do list, living in the moment, and other great advice.

My "one more win" principle is based on those who have experienced despair, tragedies or other life issues.  I'm not talking necessarily those who are depressed or mental health challenges.

"One more win" is more like a life mantra, no matter where your life is today.

And what I have come to know as a coach is that most people think of success as some one-time breakthrough.  This is not accurate.  Life success according to how you design it is based on some type of daily habit that gets you an inch closer to your goal or how you envision your life.

"One more win" can become your daily habit that ensures that no matter your big goal, there is something that you can always identify from that day that helped you get an inch closer...

Even as an entrepreneur, you may go days, weeks or months feeling like you aren't making any real progress.

It can be so frustrating.

The same frustration is also applicable to:

  • leaders leading their team towards a big project goal that lasts several weeks or months (goal: inspire others towards their best work)
  • a divorce that drags out for months or years over a custody battle, assets, etc. (goal: move on and find happiness)
  • an illness that takes months of intensive treatment to administer (goal: healing)
  • a job situation that you were hired to turnaround and motive a global organization that challenges your ability to keep your team focused, motivated and effective (goal: save a social enterprise from collapse that will effect thousands)
  • a child that is going through a teenage phase that has you worried whether they will ever grow in their confidence (goal: raise a daring and courageous daughter)
  • you are an athlete who wants to compete at the highest level but have a major knee injury early in your competitive career (goal: Olympics competition)
You get the idea.

In all these situations, adopting the "one more win" daily principle is a very practical and applicable activity you can do to focus yourself on moving forward and staying positive on securing a win, big or small.

And sure, ideally maybe you have more than one win for that day but make your obsession at least ONE, towards your goal or objective come hell or high-water.  

A funny example is that one night I was sitting in bed thinking about a really hard day I had had. It was one of those days where it seemed like nothing went right.  Every single person or organization I called that day to coach their leadership team told me No and no one would hear me out.

It sucked!

I couldn't think of a win from that day.  So, I sat there and made myself think of a friend I knew that could use some coaching or encouragement.  Someone specific popped into my mind.

I called them and by the end of the call, they said they "Thanked God" that I called them because they had been feeling so hopeless...ahhh, there's my "one more win"!

Lastly, the "one more win" principle is different than practicing gratitude.  Gratitude is maintaing a state of being thankful for your life, people and events.

The "one more win" principle is more targeted and focused on what moves you inches forward towards a specific goal or objective.

Now go get your "one more win"...

Saturday, August 13, 2016

Clean Eating Recipe: Pineapple Coconut Dessert

It is so hot in Texas right now that some of my favorite recipes are from Cooking Light. Their summer recipes are quick, easy and light.

A prime example is this delicious Pineapple Coconut dessert that's apart of their One-Cup recipes.

Maple syrup stands in for refined sugar, light coconut milk creates a cool, creamy layer, and crushed macadamia nuts provide the crunch factor instead of a streusel or crumbled cookie topping.

It's simply divine...recipe here.

Wednesday, August 10, 2016

Ask the (Real) Question, Get the (Real) Answer

Here's some coaching around this powerful quote:

By you creating the question, your answer will be embedded in the question.

For example:
Q: Am I not going after that new opportunity because I'm afraid?
A: You are afraid.
Declaration: I do not fear. I will not allow any fear to hold me back from going after an opportunity and I will proactively shut out all fear and negativity talk that tells me otherwise.

Q: Do I need help with this overwhelming project at work?
A: You need help.
Declaration: I am wise and discerning. I will use this #wisdom and discernment to get the help I need and I will let go of any ego or self-esteem issues that keep me from letting go.

Q: How do I seem to keep having the same problem that seems like a pattern?
A: You have a pattern.
Declaration: I believe in my own power to break away from patterns that do not serve my highest ability to eradicate this systemic problem from my life.

Q: Why do I seem to lack confidence and need the opinions of several people before I move forward?
A: You lack confidence; move forward.
Declaration: I am smart, experienced and full of joy. I make decisions that serve my highest self and will honor the impact I can make on the lives of others. I will move confidently forward and know that I am enough.

Q: Do I fear what other people think about me in doing this out of the box new career?
A: You are afraid of what others will think.
Declaration: I am not afraid of what others think and I will walk boldly towards my new career adventure. I accept some friends and family may not understand but I funnel positive energy towards manifesting the happiness and results I envision for my life.

Q: Do I need to diet so I can finally start feeling like I have energy to keep up with my life of stress?
A: You need to diet and manage your stress.
Declaration: My temple is blessed and I am committed to feeding it with the nutrition that I need to be the most effective.  I will develop and learn new habits that manages my stress and will balance my priorities and commitments to line up with these new habits.

Q: Have I lost my sense of adventure and style?
A: You've lost your sense of adventure and style.
Declaration: I am adventurous and stylish in this new phase of my life.  I shed away the clothes, decor and outlook that served me in my old phase.  I will create my new sense of adventure and line up my image to be consistent with the new woman who is who I am today.

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

India Hicks Fall, 2016 Collection: Chic, Urban and Sophisticated

This past weekend India Hicks celebrated the extraordinary heights of her lifestyle brand with the gathering of Ambassadors from all over the United States in Palm Beach.

As I've mentioned before ("Elegance, Grace and Style with India Hicks"), I joined India Hicks in the early stages of her company and blogged about what an adventure I knew it would be...boy, has it lived up to that!

Since the beginning, the company has launched about four collections, each building upon the other.

This most recent collection has struck a specific chord with me like none other.  Just when we think we know what India will come out with based on the London and Harbour Island inspiration of the lifestyle brand, she surprises us with an even more inspiring collection that lives up to our company promise: accessible luxury.

The Fall, 2016 collection is all about chic, urban sophistication. As an urbanite, I love the many possibilities of what this collection will do to compliment the wardrobe of women around the United States (the only territory that India Hicks services for now).

Here's a highlight and shop all new Fall pieces...