Thursday, April 26, 2018

Throwback Thursday: Just Say Yes!



One day out of the blue I received a call from a friend panicked that she was asked to be on live tv and she couldn’t do it.

She said she was calling because she thought I’d be perfect as their Lifestyle Expert.

Before the voices in my head could argue I immediately said “Yes!”

I then ask her when is it and she replied, “In two days”....

What?!?!

I’ve never desired to be a celebrity but I do desire to convince as many people as I can that you can curate your life with a cultured style that is authentic and deeply satisfying.

I still committed to my Yes and immediately went into prep mode.

I went over and over the speaking points, the goals and objectives of the national campaign, practiced my best angles in the mirror and my smile and on and on!

The funniest part is that I wasn’t so freaked out my the LIVE tv. I was the most freaked out when I first saw my models and finally understood what a size 0 looked like and that I’d be standing right next to them on LIVE tv!

Thank God I practiced those angles!

If you need help saying “Yes!” more in your life, I recommend Shonda Rhimes' book. It’s brilliant and will help you make the connection to stop overthinking things and say “Yes!” to life!


Mood: Phenomenal Woman

Credit: @justineskye





Tuesday, April 17, 2018

Fit Men Cook: Lamb & Rice



From @fitmencook (Instagram) - Meal prep feeling bland? Spice it up with my flavorful and low-carb Indian-inspired Lamb & “rice” dish! 

I got all the ingredients from @Krogerco, including the lean lamb meat, so it should be easy to find and afford! 

It's great spicy comfort food!

Recipe at FitMenCook.com or at app below...








Monday, March 12, 2018

When Passion Ignites Activism

It's taken me a few days to write this blog post because my heart was still hurting over the recent mass shooting at a highschool in Parkland, Florida. Seeing the faces of the victims broke my heart.

When I think of how every post on Curva-Lish is to inspire you to curate your life with your own unique style, I think the state of our world is causing more people than ever to extend their passions towards being more active in changing antiquated ways in which politics and major issues has negatively impacted the lives of so many.

I am one of them and so are students around our nation.

The most recent news I read in response to the 20th school shooting so far this year is that students around the nation will be staging a walk out in solidarity and protest of what they believe are the root causes to shootings in school.

The most brilliant thing about thecwalk out, in my humble opinion, is that students are doing this on behalf of their fellow students, not just themselves.

Their passion for wanting change is causing an activism for students everywhere. Brilliant.

I'm also being impacted.

This past Saturday I participated in my first political social activism event. Yes, I'm 43 and it was my first political social activism event.

I received an invite to attend a Black Joy brunch hosted by ColorofChange. I didn't know what to expect and frankly, I was a bit nervous. All I knew was that one of the goals of the Dallas Launch of ColorofChange is to highlight candidates running for Judge seats who have a direct impact on incarceration rates amongst African American men.

Unfair incarceration policies is important to my community. And even though I'm not married or have a son, I'm choosing to be active for what I've always learned being a Christian: advocating on behalf of the poor and voiceless.

So I'm using my passion for others in the same way as the students walking out and advocating on behalf of other students. It's the same principle but different passions and advocacy.

The ColorofChange brunch far exceeded my expectations in that the setup, commaraderie and attendance was amazing!

There was young, old, experienced, not experienced, politically active, politically not active, and everything in between.

It was a beautiful sight to behold knowing that our common goal was to lock arms and advocate on behalf of others.

And my brunch table sisters were particularly bold and brilliant women! We talked amongst ourselves as we ate absolutely delicious food from Aloft Downtown Dallas. Topics ranged from raising children of the next generation to marriage to careers to thoughts on current topics. The responses ranged but there was also common threads given that our table crew was aged from late 20s to a grandma in her 70s who was in attendance at Martin Luther King, Jrs last speech in Memphis, TN.

One of the outcomes of the ColorofChange brunch was to not only meet again before the primaries to make sure we had enough information to make informed decisions as voters but to also promise to encourage our network and community (including using the Hustle app) to turn their passions to activism and join us!

I really believe this is a new era in which you'll see people no longer sit on the sidelines but will get engaged. I just pray that engagement is not on behalf of just themselves but is on behalf of the poor and the voiceless.

That's truly an amazing way to curate your life with style...












Monday, February 12, 2018

Fantasy Hollywood Star Looks

I have genuinely never strived to be a celebrity because I believe it's not as sexy as we all imagine.

But, I must admit I'm infatuated with this site that translates your average Facebook profile pictures into the looks of a Hollywood Star...it's completely addictive.

Here are my original Facebook profile pictures and their Hollywood Star counterpart from the site...I felt like a celebrity for five seconds, minus the celebrity drama!

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Me as Hollywood Star


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Me as Hollywood Star


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Me as Hollywood Star


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Me as Hollywood Star


Original (Corporate Board Pic)


Me as Hollywood Star


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Me as Hollywood Star




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Me as Hollywood Star

See your Hollywood Star HERE


Monday, February 5, 2018

The Bullshit of the "Five Closest People To You" Theory

I have literally gone to over 100s of success seminars on various topics since I was 16 years old in Junior Achievement.

Learning and knowing the habits of the world's most successful people has been a long time passion of mine.

One of the more recent theories mentioned at many business seminars is the theory that you are the result of the five closest people to you.

That sounds fine but the context of that theory is that you need to make sure that the five people closest to you (aka, the five people you spend the most time with)  are super successful because they will impact whether you achieve your financial goals.

I have always had a nagging feeling that somehow that theory was inaccurate but at the time I first heard it, I couldn't articulate why I thought it was inaccurate.



Now in my 40's and having lived more life, I know that theory is inaccurate because various people fulfill a role in your life that keeps you grounded and centered.

That's important.

Just because someone isn't a millionaire and you aim to be one, doesn't mean your relationship with that person is going to deter you from your financial goal.

That person maybe someone who helps you spiritually, keeps you focused on your highest potential or refuses to let you settle for a relationship beneath your worth.

You see, you are not a one dimensional person.

There's nothing wrong with having financial goals but if your financial goals are the only life drivers that you have, then you are not a whole, well rounded person.

The people who created and always teaches the theory of five are normally always men. That's not surprising because men tend to get their worth from their career and how much money they earn.

As a woman who has counseled, coached, and supported literally hundreds of people, I can tell you that having a one dimensional life is an unhappy life.

We are given many different, amazing people in which to connect, grow and learn from as we evolve throughout our lives.

That's amazing!

If your goal is to be at your most fit level, then your millionaire friend who works sixty hours a week and never exercises is not your reference point. And that's okay if they're not one of your five!

If your goal is to get your sexy back, then it's fine not to seek counsel from your pastor! Just sayin'! Call that crazy lady you met at a networking event who shared that she's been married with amazing sex for over 40 years. And she doesn't have to become one of your closest confidants forever! And that's okay.

Whoever you choose to be apart of your circle of people who influence your life, don't ever put them in a bucket of the financial value they do or don't bring into your life.

The beauty of life is being loved for who you really are.

And in my opinion, that is priceless.

Thursday, January 25, 2018

AERIN Launches "Hibiscus Palm"

Pic Credit: @bagsnob

Last night Aerin Lauder launched her newest fragrance, Hibiscus Palm, at her namesake lifestyle company.

Set amid the paradise of Hotel Estencia in Mexico, Aerin hosted an impressive lineup of beauty influencers and #AerinAmbassadors with a kickoff dinner inspired by the flower, from decor to food infused pairings.

Hibiscus Palm captures the island scent of brilliant sunshine on a lush beach. Accords of Lotus Flower and Hibiscus Palm mingle with Ylang and exotic Ginger. Frangipani blends with a heart of fragrant White Blossoms, wrapped in the velvety warmth of Coconut Milk, Vanilla and Musk.

Get a free sample of Hibiscus Palm HERE




Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Perfect Pizza to Get Rid of Winter Blues



For outdoor pizza oven fans, winter can put their weekly family pizza nights on hold.

But no more!

You can still get a brick oven pizza without needing to go outside in sub zero temperatures!

This Pizzacraft stove top pizza oven is perfection.

With a stoneware bottom, you won't miss your outdoor pizza oven during the cold.

Unlike your regular oven that cooks pizza in about 45 minutes, this stove top oven heats up to 600 degrees and cooks your pizza in about six minutes!

Yep, six minutes!

It is worth every penny for the fresh from the oven pizza that has unlimited types of pizzas you can make.

Special Note: you can only make pizza on a Pizzacraft from a gas top stove, not an electrical stove.

You're welcome.




Sunday, January 14, 2018

Style Inspiration: Urban, Timeless and Badass



My personal style aesthetic is a combination of Urbanessence + Timeless Style + Some Element of Badassery

This style inspiration fashion mood board I created is all three of these elements in way that's seemless and chic!

Get the handbag and accessories from India Hicks (counterclockwise):
* Komboloi necklace is so urbane, city chic
* Lady P leather cuff is badass style
* Gold hoops are as timeless as you can get
* Solitaire tote is the best chic carryall for city life and boss babes on the go!

And don't forget to always show your personal style...

Saturday, January 13, 2018

Retail Charity Fundraiser: Kendra Scott & Children's Hospital LA



Congratulations to the Kendra Scott Los Angeles team on a phenomenal Fundraiser for Children's Hospital, Los Angeles.

Curva-Lish became an e-commerce with Kendra Scott because not only does the company make incredible jewelry based right here in Texas but beyond that, social impact has been apart of the company from the beginning.

In other words, the Kendra Scott company epitomizes doing good business plus making an impact through its pioneering in-store charity fundraiser events.

And these aren't just some boring in-store shopping events.

The #KendraScottGivesBack events are replete with DJs, fabulous bites, photo booths, drinks and representatives from the designated charity to connect the purpose for fundraising with shopper dollars.

It is a winning formula that has allowed the company to his hundreds of fundraising events while donating thousands to worthy causes with 20% of sales proceeds donated.

Special Note: unlike most retailers that requires the designated charity to be an IRS designated 5013c, Kendra Scott doesn't have this requirement to have one of their in-store retailvarity fundraisers. Whether it's a national charity, a home town crisis, a local organization, or a friend in need, you can sign up for a fundraiser with Kendra Scott!

Brilliant!


Thursday, January 11, 2018

The Mature Glow of My Golden Globe Favorites



I don't understand the overall obsession with youth.

I grew up during a time were you aspired to be one of those elegantly mature women who had style, sophistication and knew what you wanted.

And at the recent Golden Globes awards, my two favorite women of style was Viola Davis (age 52) and Sharon Stone (age 59).

These two women epitomize everything I aspire to as I age:

Authenticity

Badass Aesthetic

Graciousness

Comfortable in their own skin and a deep sense of self

Exhibit forgiveness...

Yep, that's how you age well!





Wednesday, January 10, 2018

I Don't Need Your Permission

I feel very strongly about this blog post. I have noticed some things over the last several months that continues to shock me and have me scratching my head.

Scenarios from last few months...

I've gone to a few events where I'm describing a life situation that I think is funny because it's some decision or thing I did that clearly shows I know how to laugh at myself.

And it never fails that I get the same weird response, "That's okay."

They normally say more but these few words are uttered the same no matter what situation or story I'm sharing.

It started happening so frequently that I told a friend how frustrating it can be because it comes across as extremely patronizing.

And it's not just these scenarios...on more than a dozen occasions I will reach out to someone to become a new client or purchase one of my company's products or services.

In these scenarios, the person I'm speaking with proceeds to tell me that they are not interested.

That's fine! But here's the crazy part: they then go on to tell me their opinion about what they think of my product or service in a way whereas you'd think I had asked their opinion!

I'm of the same mentality as Brenee Brown: unless you are in the ring (or apart of my existing clientele/business group) getting your butt kicked too, you don't get an opinion, especially from the sidelines!

Last scenario I'll share before I get to what I believe is going on: I was at Starbucks the other day and I complimented a young lady on her boots, telling her I also loved the heel height (see picture).



She then proceeds to tell me it's the highest heel height she wears.

With a befuddled look on my face I inquire why. She replies, "Because people with my height don't wear high heels."

Ummmm, huh?

I then inquire how tall is she. She responds that she's 5'7".

I started laughing telling her I'm close to 5'9" and I've worn 4 and 5 inch heels my whole life. She looked shocked.

I then continue: "So you're telling me you're going to let the opinions of people you don't even know dictate what you will or will not wear? Hmm. Do you like heels?"

Of course she responds that she loves heels.

I then thought to ask her how old she was...she replied that she was early 30s.

Ahhhh, there it was...a light bulb sorta went off in my head.

For every scenario that I shared with you above, one of the consistent chords is that the other person was younger than 40 years old.

This is not a post about bashing young people or anything like that.

My point is that in our age where social media Likes give us confidence about our choices and we regularly ask for Recommendations on Facebook about what to do when we go on vacation or go out to eat, I'm concerned that it's causing us to believe that people need our permission to edify their life choices and we need their opinions to make us feel good about ours.



I'm 43 and grew up in a time and household that taught that sure, you may get a few key inputs from mentors, pastors, parents, etc before you make life decisions but at the end of the day, YOU make the choice AND live with the full results of that choice.

There was never a "decision by committee" or group vote or escapism from responsibility when it was time to make your decisions about life.

It's all I know.

And what this way of making decisions does is creates valuable experience, self confidence, courage and an ability to "make the call" in your own life.

What I've realized is that the people in the scenarios above weren't being patronizing. They are just so used to being surrounded by others (social media, strangers and friends) who all give them their opinions (and indirectly, their permission) about how they live their lives and the decisions they make about it.

Please don't weigh a Facebook recommendation for a travel destination or Yelp! recommendations for the new pizza joint with the same brevity as making life and business decisions.

They are not the same!

You don't need permission to pursue that second career. #OwnIt

You don't need permission to go salsa dancing in Peru to relive an old memory that made you feel alive. #OwnIt

You don't need permission to leave that unhealthy relationship that your spirit has told you wasn't good for you. #OwnIt

You don't need permission to call that long lost love that you've never stopped thinking about. #OwnIt



You don't need permission to wear red lipstick everyday as opposed to only special occasions when you absolutely love it. #OwnIt

You don't need permission to put together your proposal to HR demonstrating why you know you deserve equal pay. #OwnIt

You don't need to continue to be apart of a group whose members will never accept you as one of their own. #OwnIt

And lastly, when I say #OwnIt, I mean own the fullness of the good and bad that may come from your decision. Don't pass off the responsibility of what that decision can lead to, good, bad or indifferent.

I really do believe that people who make life and business decisions by huge committees made up of people who have no "skin in the game" towards their success are also trying to muster courage and bravery from the outside (meaning, from the approval and permission from as many people as possible), instead of mustering the courage and bravery from the inside to make a brave and unique choice.

You don't need permission.

#OwnIt

Other Blog Posts to Inspire You to #OwnIt:
Level Uphttps://curva-lish.blogspot.com/2017/04/level-up-stop-apologizing.html