Monday, February 5, 2018

The Bullshit of the "Five Closest People To You" Theory

I have literally gone to over 100s of success seminars on various topics since I was 16 years old in Junior Achievement.

Learning and knowing the habits of the world's most successful people has been a long time passion of mine.

One of the more recent theories mentioned at many business seminars is the theory that you are the result of the five closest people to you.

That sounds fine but the context of that theory is that you need to make sure that the five people closest to you (aka, the five people you spend the most time with)  are super successful because they will impact whether you achieve your financial goals.

I have always had a nagging feeling that somehow that theory was inaccurate but at the time I first heard it, I couldn't articulate why I thought it was inaccurate.

Now in my 40's and having lived more life, I know that theory is inaccurate because various people fulfill a role in your life that keeps you grounded and centered.

That's important.

Just because someone isn't a millionaire and you aim to be one, doesn't mean your relationship with that person is going to deter you from your financial goal.

That person maybe someone who helps you spiritually, keeps you focused on your highest potential or refuses to let you settle for a relationship beneath your worth.

You see, you are not a one dimensional person.

There's nothing wrong with having financial goals but if your financial goals are the only life drivers that you have, then you are not a whole, well rounded person.

The people who created and always teaches the theory of five are normally always men. That's not surprising because men tend to get their worth from their career and how much money they earn.

As a woman who has counseled, coached, and supported literally hundreds of people, I can tell you that having a one dimensional life is an unhappy life.

We are given many different, amazing people in which to connect, grow and learn from as we evolve throughout our lives.

That's amazing!

If your goal is to be at your most fit level, then your millionaire friend who works sixty hours a week and never exercises is not your reference point. And that's okay if they're not one of your five!

If your goal is to get your sexy back, then it's fine not to seek counsel from your pastor! Just sayin'! Call that crazy lady you met at a networking event who shared that she's been married with amazing sex for over 40 years. And she doesn't have to become one of your closest confidants forever! And that's okay.

Whoever you choose to be apart of your circle of people who influence your life, don't ever put them in a bucket of the financial value they do or don't bring into your life.

The beauty of life is being loved for who you really are.

And in my opinion, that is priceless.

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