I just received a notification from a lady who has one of those "buy my $1,299 program and you'll succeed" brands that said she's leaving Facebook because it doesn't have the high vibration that she wants for herself and the group.
I can respect that but guess what?? If you look at her posts, SHE'S the one posting negative, instigating, divisive content and shares!
When you are a grown person, at what point do you stop blaming others, media, or some other scapegoat and truly ask yourself: maybe it's ME!
Like, for real!
At what point do you make self-care and self-awareness balanced and asking yourself: If I keep getting the same results in my life, maybe there is some dysfunction in my life that I need to face.
Do you keep losing friends? Maybe it's you.
Do you keep losing opportunities? Maybe it's you.
Do you keep missing your goals, no matter how earnest your intentions? Maybe it's you.
Surrounded by negative people that is always gossiping about other people's lives? Maybe it's you.
Going on 100 dates a year and still can't seem to find "the one"? Maybe it's you.
Does other people's achievements deter you from focusing on your own lane? Maybe it's you.
Instead of looking for some scapegoat to blame...seriously ask yourself:
I asked my friend Licensed Psychologist Dr. Lauren Ives to weigh in: "In today's society people are quick to point the finger at others when really they should be taking a long hard look in the mirror. So the next time you want to blame others for your shortcomings, just remember that positive energy attracts positive energy...don't be the source of negativity in your life!"
That's it! "...don't be the source of negativity in your life!" YOU get to decide. Not Facebook. Not your co-workers. Not your high school teacher from 30 years ago. YOU get to decide if YOU are the source of your negativity or not.
And the easiest way to know that is to determine whether you are taking ownership of it or blaming everyone and everything else around you...thanks Dr. Ives!
If you need help with identifying what is your "Maybe it's you" issue, check out Talkspace and with the current discount code you can try it!
If you are already on your journey but need further support, I advise checking out the Coaching Federation and their tips for hiring a Coach that helps you continue to move forward without the baggage of past dysfunction.
If you don't know the difference between needing a therapist versus needing a Coach, check out my comparison included in my popular new beginnings post (scroll down).
And again, don't be afraid to admit that the reason you aren't moving forward in life in a particular area is because: Maybe it's you.